Family disputes such as the decision to separate, deciding how to divide property, creating a parenting plan or dealing with a new problem can often benefit from tapping into the process of mediation. Some ways to minimize conflict during mediation include:
Address the Problem, Not the People
Don’t attack the person. Instead, focus on how the underlying problems can be resolved. If a case involves a parenting plan, look at the other parent as a conduit to accomplish what you would like to with the plan rather than viewing him or her as an enemy. Avoid any personal attacks or blaming language.
Focus on the Interests
Rather than seeing things as “you” and “I,” look at the overall objective that you are hoping to accomplish. It is likely that you will need to concede on some issues. However, these concessions may be worth it if you can get things that you want from the process. Keep your eye on these goals.
One of the greatest benefits of mediation is the opportunity that it gives the parties to truly express their feelings and beliefs. Ongoing dialogue can help the parties understand each other better and demonstrate empathy.